What is your style of parenting? Think before you choose one

However, each and every parent has a unique identity and their style of parenting may differ. There is great variation in how we raise our children. But the style of parenting may impact your child to a great extent. The way you interact with your child and how you discipline her will influence her for the rest of her life.

Researchers have identified four types of parenting styles.

  • Authoritarian
  • Authoritative
  • Permissive
  • Uninvolved

Each parenting style varies in at least four areas: discipline style, communication, nurturance, and expectations. Each style takes a different approach to raise children and can be identified by a number of different characteristics. Let’s go through these in detail.

1. Authoritarian: Authoritarian parents are often thought of as disciplinarians. They prefer strict discipline over anything else.
  • They are not interested in negotiating and their focus is on obedience. Punishing children is common in this parenting style.
  • Communication is mostly from parent to child. Rules usually are not explained but imposed on children. They are asked to do the things as their parents want them to do.
  • They also don’t allow kids to get involved in problem-solving obstacles. Authoritarian parents only enforce the rules. Children are not allowed to make their own decisions.
  • Parents with this style are typically less caring and want results from their children at any cost.

Impact on Children:

  • • Children who grow up with such parents tend to follow rules most of the time. But, their obedience comes at a price.
  • • Children of authoritarian parents are at a higher risk of developing self-esteem problems because their opinions aren’t valued.
  • • Children of such parents are not good at decision making.
2. Authoritative: Authoritative parents are nurturing and at the same time they are reasonable. They set high, clear expectations from their children. Such parents invest time and energy into preventing behaviour problems before they start. They also use positive discipline strategies to reinforce good behaviour.
  • Disciplinary rules are clear and the reasons behind them are explained well to the children.
  • Communication is frequent which means they loved to talk to their children.
  • Authoritative parents are caring as compared to Authoritarian parents.
  • Expectations and goals are high but stated clearly to the children.

Impact on Children:

  • Kids who have authoritative parents are most likely to become responsible adults who feel comfortable expressing their opinions.
  • Children raised with such parenting style are disciplined and tend to be happy and successful.
3. Permissive: They’re quite forgiving and offer limited guidance to the children. They are more like friends than parents. They might give privileges back if a child begs or they may allow a child to get out of time-out early if he promises to be good. They often encourage their children to talk with them about their problems, but they usually don’t put much effort into discouraging poor choices or bad behaviour.

Impact on Children:
Juveniles who grow up with permissive parents are more likely to struggle academically. They may have more behavioural problems and they often have low self-esteem.
They’re also at a higher risk for health problems, like obesity, tooth damage because permissive parents do not struggle to limit junk food intake.

4. Uninvolved: Such parents do not provide much guidance, nurturing, and parental attention to their children. Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves, and there is a lack of communication between the two parties. They don’t devote much time or energy into meeting children’s basic needs. Uninvolved parents may neglectful but it’s not always intentional.

At other times, uninvolved parents lack knowledge about child development. And sometimes, they’re simply overwhelmed with other problems, like work, paying bills, and managing a household.

Impact on Children:
Children with uninvolved parents are likely to struggle with self-esteem issues. They usually perform poorly in school and they also exhibit frequent behaviour problems. Such children are low in happiness and hence depressed.

A word from Superactive kids:
It’s a fact that parents always don’t fit into just one category, so there are times where you tend to be permissive and other times when you’re more authoritative. The studies show that, however, that authoritative parenting is the best parenting style so far.

Besides all this, the most important thing is to communicate with your child on a regular basis so that you could understand your child’s mindset and this will create a healthy relationship between you and your children and nonetheless that is more important than anything else.

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